Do you care what others think of you?
If you’re like most people, the answer is YES.
About 10 years ago, I was in a direct sales business. This company’s success was based on bringing in new “business owners or reps”, as well as selling their products/services. The company’s compensation plan and leadership team was top notch. Although I had some success in this company, the “lessons” I learned have proven to be invaluable.
As I was coaching my team on how to approach friends and family about this opportunity, the pushback I would always get was the same: “Scott, what are my friends/family going to think when I approach them about this business opportunity” I would say, “Well, do you really believe that this opportunity can help someone earn a 2nd stream of income, or ultimately get them out of their jobs, and have them start living life on THEIR terms?” The answer was always, YES…
But here’s where the disconnect was:
Even though they SAID that they believed in the company and opportunity, as soon as they would approach their friends, trying to get them to join the business, and their friends said no, my new reps would quit the business. It was like clock-work, after hearing NO, 3-5 times, 50% of the new reps would quit before they would even get started.
They were so concerned about “looking good”, keeping up with the Jones’s, and caring what others thought about them, they failed to pursue their passion and follow their dreams.
How about you?
If you were to be totally honest, how would you answer the question…
“Do you care what others think of you?”
“What if you started a brand new business tomorrow after working your corporate job for the past 20 years….Would you concern yourself with what your family or neighbors think?”
I want to share a success strategy/mindset tip that I heard a while ago.
After I heard this, I never again cared what others thought about me, my business, my decisions, or the way I go about living my life.
An article in a popular, success magazine was written that said the following:
“When you die, on average, the amount of people that will cry at your funeral is 10, and the number one determining factor whether or not people will come to your burial is based on the weather. If it rains, only 1/3 of the people that were scheduled to go will actually show up.”
What!!!!!!
I couldn’t believe what I just heard….
I was always so focused on what other people thought about me.
If I joined a new business…what would my friends think?
If I moved to a new city…what would my friends think”
I swore that I would never again let the opinions of others, sway decisions I make in my life or business.
Think about it.
Out of all the people you will meet, engage with, impact, teach, parent, love, touch, etc….only 10 of them will cry at your funeral!!
And if it rains, half of them will show up to your burial…Crazy, right??
Your Success Coach,
Scott
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Scott:so true.In fact i always said i would not take any venture that involved trying to sell my family or friends.Your are really changing the way i go about increasing my business.Thank you so much for your updates they are very strong in changing my mindset.
clifford, glad you enjoyed the blog post. keep pushing forward!
Hi Scott. Such an inspirational blog.
Hi,
I appreciate your article and it’s point. I think the comment about the funeral can be true on average, but I also think it’s a bit extreme and wouldn’t take it on face value. Every person and situation is infinitely unique. I believe we have a social responsibility to care about others, and to some degree what they think. The blank statement “I don’t care what others think” is too broad and I believe, absurd. If we really didn’t care we’d be robbing banks or stealing spouses, or whatever strikes someone’s fancy or weakness. I don’t want to live in a society like that. We need to amend this statement with some thoughtfulness. And cultural conventions are necessary (waiting in line, not shouting on the bus, etc.) Perhaps adding the limitation that we DO care about others and what they think, but are not so concerned with their opinions about my own success or failure, would be much more appropriate. I’ve been at funerals where 20-30 people were crying, and over 100 people were in attendance. I’ve been to private ceremonies where only the family stood around and quoted some of their favorite memories(my favorite kind). Just wanted to point out that some distinctions are important, esp. if you are talking to very young people, who can take things the wrong way. Peace!